SISTARHOOD RISING COMMUNITY

It’s as simple as saying “I do not like that.” And removing yourself. It seems so easy but when you were not taught this it can feel like the hardest thing to do. Potentially upsetting someone because of our own needs feels scary because we have put people above ourselves for so long. This is a trauma response & something that needs to be acknowledged!

When you were taught young that your preferences do not matter, you shaped yourself to fit the “standard”.

But here’s the thing, you were created to be brilliant in your authentic design! You are one of trillions!

So… back to the boundaries…

There are times you may let someone know how their actions are harming you and they change their behavior. This is one way trust is built.

There are also times when you may let someone know how they have harmed you and they don’t change… the pattern reappears and you have to decide if you want to keep cycling through it with them. After once or twice it’s honorable to accept the reality as it is, know your worth and move forward. Let go of the fantasy of what it could be. No need to prove your worth to someone committed to mishandling you.

There are also places that you may outgrow.

You will outgrow yourself time and time again as you evolve past ways of being that no longer resonate with you.

You can set boundaries with yourself, this is called discipline.

You can decide today that you’ll no longer entertain things that drain you. You can develop healthier habits, setting boundaries with yourself screen time, eating routine, exercise…. Time spent with others and with yourself.

When you begin to face what you do not like and create space for all that feels good to you, your life will blossom.

Setting boundaries can feel uncomfortable at first. Your throat feels tight as you may struggle to bring up the words that may or may not cause another to view differently of you. This is okay. It’s a part of it. You are gaining the courage to finally speak up for yourself after years and years of staying silent so “people like you.”

This is how you show yourself that you care about you now! This is how you practice self care & self love.

Each time you speak up and set a boundary you tell yourself you actually give a shit about your preferences! So self honoring of you! Lol we weren’t taught something that should be so natural. So take baby steps! Be patient with yourself and nonjudgmental! Hold yourself if insecurity arises. Your grace to yourself will carry you through!

Be proud of your progress! opening your throat chakra will activate your heart & speaking up for yourself will become natural! You won’t fight it anymore & you will finally feel like you belong in your body & in the world!

Anxiety was taught. You don’t have to live inside your head anymore! Share what you have to say and let fall away what was never meant to stay! The people who are meant to be in your life will feel light to be around, they will respect you and not try to change/control you. The places meant to be in your life will give you energy, they will feel exciting! The things as well.

Set boundaries, let go, embrace the new!

You deserve it!