SISTARHOOD RISING COMMUNITY

Own your power & gain confidence in return ❤️‍🔥

Do you have them?

Do you know what they are?

Do you even know where to begin or how to set them?

In moments where you are uncomfortable…do you speak up? Or do you allow others to do as they please? Do you let people touch you when you don’t want to be touched? Do you allow people to talk to you with disrespect, not honoring how you feel? Not walking away out of being scared or their response, or even just scared of being alone?

I am here to tell you, how you feel matters tremendously. When you decide today that you are going to speak up, you are setting yourself up for a future of success. By setting boundaries you create your life on your terms, and no one can deter your path but you.

You make a choice to say, this stops here! I deserve better! And you make way for that better to arrive.

Having standards is important!

I saw a post that stated how many of us often only see the good in people because as children we had to justify our parents behaviors.

Meaning that when our parents showed traits that made us feel extremely unsafe we still saw their goodness, and we brushed aside the not so great parts. After all, we loved them dearly. They were our first attachment figures. But this was a survival mechanism. It’s what made us feel secure and safe in the environment we were in. We in turn, took this into all of our connections.

We get into a habit of trying to prove our greatness to those that disrespect us and in the process we disrespect ourselves by making ourselves smaller to fit their image of us.

When we recognize who we are, we do not need to prove that to another person. If they choose to see us differently, we can walk away and align ourselves with better connections. People that truly value us and see us in our magnificence.

So back to boundaries!… Think of a time you felt uncomfortable in someones presence because of something they were initiating, doing to you or the environment, or how they were speaking to you or to/about others… there are many scenarios, just think of your experience though.

How did it feel in your body?

If you held back words, did your throat tighten?

Did your entire body tighten?

When we do not acknowledge what is causing us this feeling, and we fail to speak up, the body tightens more and more until it we may eventually give in to please the person (as an attempt to feel more comfortable in their presence) or our nervous system enters flight, freeze or fawn mode (similar to the giving in).

When we choose to speak up, even if our knees and voice shake, we our starting the path of owning our power, gaining confidence and taking back our self-autonomy! No other person should have power over what you do, but you!

We learned this people pleasing jumbo from our parents, from being in public schooling and the government/ systems in place in general. It’s something that was passed down through generations. But it can end with you!

True sovereignty is owning who you are and respecting yourself!

You can care about others while still honoring how you feel as well!

Being able to know what is truly for you and what is not for you is a superpower that will allow you to feel full and alive!

Through building this confidence you will also build resiliency, because you will begin to see things as they truly are and have to let go of all that is not truly for you. Certain things on our path are only there for a season.

As you grow and evolve, getting to know your unique energy.. you will realize there are many things you did simply because its what others wanting you to do.

This is season, and every season after will be about what YOU want to do!

And you deserve it.

To live a life authentic to you 💞

So get comfortable in your body by speaking up! You are valuable and your voice matters. This will also mirror back others not so great traits & they may or may not choose to face themselves but that is none of your business baby! You are too busy doing you now!

Go be great! 💋