SISTARHOOD RISING COMMUNITY

Being a mother is such a a gift, but it is not all there is to life.

Having children, creating a connection with them and tending to their needs, feels like purpose. As mothers we dive all in- at least some of us do… and we become one with the child. Trying to support every emotion, every need, we worry about far too much, because we care….wanting our children to have the best experience possible. So much so that we forget about ourselves in the process. Our self care becomes rushed. Our desires for ourselves? They feel nonexistent. Motherhood is what we desire..being with our children.. making sure our children have everything they need. That becomes our focus. It feels great to know we are providing them with essentials while giving them the necessary attention.

But what about the attention we need for ourselves? Do we truly make space for it? Are we even comfortable and confident in our own presence, or do we try to escape it by thinking about our children, and what they need…what the home needs… or do we go towards drugs or alcohol to feel “good” and relaxed… or do we simply try to find that relaxation and good feeling through other people?

Do we know how to relax and enjoy the silence within us? How to regulate and tend to our bodies in healthy ways? Do we embrace curiosity and imagination by creating art, do we explore new places with excitement and enthusiasm?

Or do we hold ourselves back from exploring because of fear or feeling like we must have someone to go with to have a good time? Do we cringe at the thought of doing something on our own?

What if I told you it is possible to have a great time with yourself? To let down your guard to your own heart, for you? To silence your mind and feel true liberation and aliveness in simply being in the vessel you are in!

Imagine feeling so free to be yourself and as curious and open as a child that your presence isn’t uncomfortable. You actually want more time to yourself and realize you need it!

Self discovery, at first is uncomfortable and challenging. Starting from the root of your suffering requires reflecting on why you don’t like to be alone in the first place.

Is there codependency there? And why?

A lot of our suffering today results from unresolved wounds that led to unhealthy patterns- those being: mental mindsets, self abandonment, controlling behaviors, codependency, etc… that are not truly in alignment with who we are at our cores.. who we were when we were born. Many of us didn’t have a chance to grow up more into who we were as children. We were taught to shrink. Shrink how we feel, do as we are told, make our parents/family comfortable and our teachers. We were taught to silence our dreams and focus on school and sports. Our true gifts being thought of as pointless in the society we grew up in. “

They projected their limiting beliefs onto us, saying things like “ that hobby won’t allow you to create income in the future, go to college” and because of this many of our elders didn’t support us with growing in our passions, which inevitably would allow us to get to know ourselves deeper and grow our confidence.

When we are taught that our feelings matter, our emotions, our passions, we build confidence in who we are and we go into the world shining our light unapologetically!

Most of the world lacks confidence. Because we were taught our value lies in our external world. We were taught to care more about how others feel about us than how we feel about us. As if our value is determined by another. We were taught that if we are not like our neighbor then we don’t fit in. When we were born to stand out!

Our idea of beauty and success has been distorted. The idea that everyone is supposed to look and act the same way is Ludacris yet we have been sold a lie and blinded without ever realizing how freaking crazy that idea is!

We pick our bodies apart without appreciating its uniqueness and its brilliance!

We compare our success to others based on how much money we make!

Our journeys were never supposed to be the same!

We are all unique, we just have not been reminded of the importance of our uniqueness! And how miraculous it is that we are who we are in this lifetime!

There are a trillion + people in the world yet there is only one of you!

We are floating on a planet in an infinite universe…!!!!! You are literally born to make a difference with your presence!

Being different is the BAG! 💸❤️‍🔥

It is by being yourself that door open up!

And when you don’t know how to be yourself it can feel weird.

What do I like?

What do I want?

What lights my heart on fire?

What do I need to feel safe and secure?

These are questions that should be easy to answer yet become difficult when we have been focused on everything but ourselves for so long.

We don’t even realize it until we ask these self reflective questions & that is okay!

Have grace with your self exploration 💜✨

Rest when the weight of the past brings up emotions and your body feels tired.

Transmute what you find through art, journaling, dancing, singing, a creative outlet.

Let go of the energy, do not hold onto it. Whatever you need to do to feel lighter, do it. This builds confidence and resilience!

Healing is both painful and liberating!

And know that you are not alone even when it feels like it. You don’t have to do it by yourself. There are people who would love to be there for you. Do not hesitate to reach out for support!

Let this be a reminder that you will always need you at the end of everyday!

Hold yourself through the challenging times and know that everything is temporary 💌

You are rising! ✨💃🎇